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How to develop focus?

Focus / March 19, 2019

How To Develop Laser-Like Focus And Easily Achieve Your GoalsIf you want to succeed in life, if you want to get what you desire most, if you want to achieve your goals… you need to master the art of focus.

And of course, this doesn’t only apply to succeeding in your business, advancing your career or improving your financial situation. It holds true for every aspect of your life: finding more fulfillment, creating better relationships, advancing on your spiritual path, improving your health, learning a new set of skills…

One of the main reason for failure (in any area of life) is the lack of focus. If you are not laser-like focused on what you want, it will either be very difficult for you to obtain it or it will take much longer than necessary.

On the other hand, if you can master the art of focus it will be relatively easy for you to reach your goals and you will be able to make it happen really fast.

Focus means nothing else than identifying your most important “task” and giving 100% of your attention to it. You melt with your task, you become one with it and there is nothing else.

There are no disturbing thoughts that have nothing to do with your task, no wandering mind, there is no multi-tasking, no web surfing or checking your emails… you are completely immersed in whatever you identified as your primary task to reach your goal.

And, when I’m talking about this “most important task”, it could be anything: a specific work task, a vision you hold in your mind, a specific way to treat your partner, a set of daily rules and habits…

It is something that should always be at least at the back of your mind. A part of you should always be in a state where you see yourself as having already achieved your goal. Over time, this will become your personal guidance system that will immediately tell you as soon as you start moving away from your goal, so that you can instantly re-focus.

Attaining and keeping this state of laser like focus takes some practice, discipline and time. People often think they are focused, but in most cases they are not.

Yes, they may be working on an important task, but their mind is wondering around, they are thinking about something else, they may be checking their emails every 30 minutes or getting distracted by all sorts of things that are going on around them…

They may be sincerely wishing to improve their relationship, but then they keep on doing the same things that harm their relationship…

They may have a strong desire to improve their financial situation, they take some important actions, but at the same time they remain locked in a state of fear and worry of slipping into poverty…

Laser-like focus means, ALL your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and actions are fully aligned with your goal – all day long, day in, day out.

If you want to succeed financially, you cannot hold on to beliefs like: money is bad, money corrupts people, or that you will never be rich, because you don’t have the right education…

If you want to lose weight, it is not a good idea to eat two tablets of chocolate every day, you are not focused when you look into the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are fat…

Your focus needs to become your life attitude. You need to start living and breathing the complete alignment with your goal every second of your life.

A few simple ideas to get more focused:

I recommend you stop every now and then and ask yourself if you are really focused and aligned or if you are walking in the opposite direction of where you want to go. Whenever you realize that you are not fully focused, simply bring the focus back. Be patient and use a playful attitude. Developing a sharp focus takes some time and practice.

It is also a great idea to keep a daily diary and to make a note of everything that distracts you. Make a note of all your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and actions that are not aligned with your goal. That way, you became more aware of the things that disturb your focus and it will be much easier to get rid of them.

Once you become aware of your main distracters, make a firm resolution to let go of those thoughts, habits, actions… that keep you from reaching your goal.

#1 – Get a crystal clear vision of what you want:

You are not applying focus just for the sake of applying focus. You are using your focus to achieve your goals. And, this means, first you need to get absolutely clear what you want.

What drives you, what excites you, what will pull you forward? This is about what you want, not what your parents want, not what your friends may think is great, not what your society thinks is worthwhile to achieve…

If you connect with your passion, with your heart’s desire, it will be relatively easy and natural to remain fully focused on your goal. You will literally be pulled towards your goal.

On the other hand, if you do something that doesn’t really correspond with your heart’s desire – for example, because you want to impress someone or feel more respected in your society… – keeping a strong focus will be very difficult and you will constantly need to push yourself.

Also, if you have a crystal clear vision of what you want, you will be able to come up with a great plan on how to achieve your goal and the clearer and more lively your vision is the more drive and energy you will find to make it happen.

#2 – Create a plan:

Once you have a clear vision of what you want, you can get started to create a plan on how to get there. Depending on the complexity of your goal, you may need to do some research, read some autobiographies and books… to identify the required action steps.

Your first plan won’t be perfect, but it will be good enough to get you started. Don’t worry to get everything perfect right from the start – it is impossible. Just keep on learning, take action, move forward and adapt your plan as you go.

At the beginning, you won’t have all the elements, but the stronger your focus grows, the more ideas, people, strategies, action steps… to achieve your goal will be attracted into your life.